Wednesday, 6 April 2016

Proactive vs Reactive - When life gets shitty

Sometimes things go to absolute shit, and you've got to deal with it.

As you can imagine, the reason I'm writing this article is that I feel like smacking my head on a desk, because I just spent two hours on a piece about Tribe Mentality - a super useful topic - and ACCIDENTALLY PERMANENTLY DELETED ALL OF IT.

So, how do you deal with it when life delivers you a massive slap in the face?

I want to take a close look at the word Responsibility.

It's clearest if I break it down so that we can look at it as two words instead.

Responsibility = Response Ability

Simply put, it's your ability to choose how you respond to whatever happens to you in life. When you take responsibility for your life, instead of suffering through bad luck, you can choose how to respond to it instead.

In this case, having lost all of my work... I responded by choosing to write an article about dealing with hard luck.

Here's the thing- we need a bit of hard luck. We need to get tripped up and bruised every once in a while, because life is by no means meant to be a breeze. Often, out of the toughest, rock -bottom circumstances come our greatest work and inspiration.

If you are a proactive person, then you know all about responsibility. Your life is yours, so you choose how to behave, how to react and how to deal with whatever may come your way.

But if you are reactive, then man, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Essentially you are empowering everything except yourself. If I had deleted my article just now and chosen to go into a mood instead, I would be a victim of bad luck.

If you're reactive, then if the weather is good, you feel good. If the weather turns to shit and its raining all over the place and you were just about to go out, then you react to that by feeling bad.

A proactive person is still affected by these things, but they do not let themselves become victims. They have the ability to respond in whichever way they might choose.

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, ' no one can hurt you without your consent '. Life cannot make you a victim. You choose to be a victim of life, or to make the most of what you have and flow with your circumstances.

A maximised person is proactive.

Take responsibility! You have the ability to respond!

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